…our perspectives are borne from many things, such as the environment we are bought up in and our life experiences. I was bought up with an understanding of disability from a young age, through having a disabled parent. This was a physical disability and I was inspired by both my father’s incredible positivity and my mother’s ability to be so caring and patient, whilst looking after a large family. For the latter part of my father’s working life he supported other disabled individuals into employment, doing so with determination to better the lives of those with both visible and hidden disabilities.
At 23 years old, I was to experience the most unthinkable and devastating pain of losing a child (a twin), almost resulting in my own death; and with the knowledge that if my child had survived they would have been profoundly disabled. Why are these things relevant? Because they have coloured my life and changed my perspective on life and disability.
As the parent of two very different autistic children, I hope that my posts may offer an honest and open perspective on my experiences and personal views. In posts I will not use gender in reference to my children, with one of my autistic children assigned female and the other male. In my wider family I have others members who are autistic and female, defying the commonly held statistical view of autism.